Family Resources

If Your Student is Having a Problem

When freshmen encounter problems in classes, with teachers or administrators, classmates, roommates, food, parking, etc., at times they may confide in parents, complain to them, or plead with them to make things better. Parents may get caught up in what they’re hearing and want to fix things for their sons and daughters. Generally, the most meaningful and effective parental support is to let students do some problem-solving. Listen carefully to their words, validate their feelings, and try to discover the underlying causes of concern. Reaffirm your belief in their ability to handle the situation either on their own or with the help of someone on campus.

In the event that parents believe it is imperative to get additional information from the University, in most situations, your son or daughter will need to sign the “Student Consent for Disclosure of Educational Records” form available in the Registrar’s Office in Ryan Hall.

  • Reading Suggestions

    » Arrington, Z. Confessions of a College Freshman: A Survival Guide for Dorm Life, Biology Lab, the Cafeteria, and Other First-Year Adventures. (2007)

    » Barkin, C. When your kid goes to college; A parent’s survival guide. (1999)

    » Bordy, J. Bringing home the laundry: Effective parenting for college and beyond. (2000)

    » Coburn, K. & Treeger, M. Letting go: A parent’s guide to understanding the college years. (2009)

    » Daniel-Tatum, B. Why are all the black kids sitting together in the cafeteria? And other conversations about race. (5th ed.). (2003)

    » Epstein, J. A parent’s guide to sex, drugs, and flunking out: Answers to the questions your college student doesn’t want you to know. (2001)

    » Johnson, H. & Schelhas-Miller, C. Don’t tell me what to do, just send money: The essential parenting guide to the college years. (2000)

    » Kastner, L. & Wyatt, J. The launching years: Strategies for parenting from the senior year to college life. (2002)

    » McGarry, K. A new beginning: A survival guide for parents of college freshmen. (2008) » Pasick, P. Almost grown: Launching your child from high school to college. (1998)

    » Savage. M. You’re on your own: But I’m here if you need me: Mentoring your child during the college years. (2009)

    » Tyler, S. Been there, Should’ve Done That: 995 Tips for Making the Most Out of College. (2008)

    » Van Steenhouse, A. Empty nest, full heart: The journey from home to college. (2002)

  • Online Resources

    Adventures in Education: Resources for families of college-bound students

    The College Board: What parents need to know

    Mapping Your Future: Planning for your child’s Education

    Missouri Saving for Tuition (MO$T) Program: Missouri’s 529 college savings plan